" Both anger and loss are things that we might try to avoid as humans and that get a “bad press” in dominant culture. Nevertheless, we might find ourselves in a paradox: while we’re hypervigilant about our fear of conflict, and the accompanying potentiality of anger and loss, we’re not paying as much attention to the suffering that is caused by trying to avoid them. "

― Meg-John Barker , Life Isn't Binary: On Being Both, Beyond, and In-Between