" I did not begin to come to terms with losing my father for a long time after his death. And I will always miss him. Grieving means having to let go and move on, and when you are able to, it becomes possible to remember the person you have lost as they really were – not as an idealised saint or vilified target for anger and disappointment, but as a complicated, real and very human being.
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― , The Other Side of Silence: A Psychiatrist's Memoir of Depression