" Shame is when a person feels they are inherently ba for have no worth. Healthy remorse, on the other hand, is quite different—it is when you acknowledge that you did something to hurt someone, and because you don't want that harmful impact to continue, you would like to not only apologize but also repair that harm. Systems of oppression can activate an enormous amount of shame-conditioning whenever anyone does something that causes harm. "
― , Turn This World Inside Out: The Emergence of Nurturance Culture