" I may have learned through dumb practice to walk with my chest out, just as I'd trained myself to limit exclamation points in my correspondence, but I felt all the absences my male body created too: the cool distance of friends in tough moments, stemming to some degree from the self-conscious way I held myself apart from women especially, so concerned with being perceived as a threat that I'd become a ghost instead. "
― Thomas Page McBee , Amateur: A True Story About What Makes a Man