QUOTE : What you've got to understand is that you didn't lose your life. You lost the life you thought you were living. And those are two different things. You are alive. It may not feel like it, but you are. And part of being alive means experiencing loss. We lose things every day - I'm not talking about eyeglasses - yes, we lose those, too - I mean things like eyesight. Our eyesight diminishes over time, our hair falls out. That's natural. It's so natural that we chalk it up to inevitability. But that's loss. Loss is inevitable. It comes in many sizes. Yours is huge - don't think I'm discounting it. But the small, everyday losses help us deal with the big ones. It's muscle memory.