" Sin is sin, of course, and pastors must address divisive, short-tempered, gossiping, or otherwise quarrelsome members. But a lot of conflict could be prevented if we were slow to speak, quick to listen, and reluctant to engage in unfruitful debates. Forgive people. Give them mercy by not fighting back. "

― Jared C. Wilson , The Gospel-Driven Church: Uniting Church Growth Dreams with the Metrics of Grace