" The ideal answer is, you will be whatever he needs you to be in the moment he needs it.” “That’s a tall order.” “And such is marriage,” she quickly returns. “See, many women…and men don’t understand the totality of commitment and how in marriage, it should mimic God’s commitment to you. Your devotion to Azmir should not be conditional or given in portions that you feel he ‘deserves.’” She uses air quotations. “It also shouldn’t be based upon his commitment to you. This isn’t a game of quid pro quo. Your attitude walking into this institution should be decided, firm, and maintained until either he dies, you die, or his behavior becomes so reckless that it negatively alters the core of who you are. You know…abuse of any form, a severely chronic addiction, or habitual adultery.” Is "

― Love Belvin , Love Redeemed (Love's Improbable Possibility)