" The grass is not greener “over there”: one must work out one’s problems with this person because if one doesn’t, one will have to work it out with that person. This is precisely what is so freeing about the vow of stability . . . to have to work it out is to demand growth, as painful as it is, and that is freeing. Faithfulness is a limit that forces us to stop running and encounter God, self, and other right now, right here.[2] Lord "
― Ruth Haley Barton , Pursuing God's Will Together: A Discernment Practice for Leadership Groups