" In his Summa Theologica, Saint Thomas Aquinas said, “To love is to will the good of the other.”10 The modern philosopher Michael Novak refines this further by adding two words: “To love is to will the good of the other as other” (emphasis mine).11 He continues: “Love is not sentimental, nor restful in illusions, but watchful, alert, and ready to follow evidence. It seeks the real as lungs crave air. "

― Arthur C. Brooks , Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America from the Culture of Contempt