" Everything we say to each other echoes with meanings left over from our past experience— both our history talking to the person before us at this moment and our history talking to others. This is especially true in the family— and our history of family talk is like a prism through which all other conversations (and relationships) are refracted. "

― Deborah Tannen , I Only Say This Because I Love You: How the Way We Talk Can Make or Break Family Relationships Throughout Our Lives