" Epictetus suggests that those who fall into circumstances they wish to avoid are those who suffer misfortune, by which he means that much suffering comes from a disconnect between what you want to happen and what actually happens. Or, as the Stoics would say, what is in accordance to nature as opposed to contrary to nature. "

― Massimo Pigliucci , A Handbook for New Stoics: How to Thrive in a World Out of Your Control—52 Week-by-Week Lessons