" Actions: Listen for a few secret rules and write them down. (This will take longer than one sitting since you’re asking your head to Google something that might be hidden.) Write the truth next to each secret rule. To find it, ask “What does that mean” and “Who says?” Create a new rule to replace the old one. Enlist a friend to help you see when you’re living by a secret rule. "

― Jon Acuff , Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done