" So is setting an example for your niece about how she doesn’t need to turn herself inside out to be loved. How she doesn’t need to set herself on fire to keep someone else warm. Demanding to have your own needs met isn’t problematic—it’s heroic, and kids are watching. They’re always watching. If you set an example that tells her the only way she’s worthy of love is by giving everyone everything, she’ll internalize that message.” I dropped my forehead to the table with a groan. “There’s a difference between taking care of someone because you love them and taking care of someone because you want them to love you,” she continued. "
― Lucy Score , Things We Never Got Over (Knockemout, #1)