" Normally we are used to the idea of gaining self-knowledge by asking ourselves ever more closely: how do I feel about this? The idea is that you know ‘who you really are’, by studying your feelings. But this suggestion here is something different, indeed the opposite. What we advise is a capacity to stand aside from feelings in order to recognise their potentially deceptive nature. It means acknowledging a fundamental distinction between what we might feel about a situation – and what it might actually be. "

― The School of Life