" I’m not denying that what you’re going through is real. What I’m saying is that you need to decide what you believe about memories. They aren’t who you are. They aren’t who you have to be. Even if things like this keep happening, and they likely will, you have to decide how much you will internalize them. "

― Rod Dreher , How Dante Can Save Your Life: The Life-Changing Wisdom of History's Greatest Poem