" Perhaps your parent is still violating your boundaries—by asking inappropriate questions, by showing up uninvited, by triangulating with your partner, spouse, or children. You have the right to set the same limits with a thoughtless or intrusive parent that you’d set with a friend or a stranger. You can refuse to answer a question. You can insist that your parent come to your house only when invited and refuse to let him in if he hasn’t been invited. You can confront your spouse and your parent about triangulation. "

― Anne Katherine , Boundaries: Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries