" When we yell, we know we yelled because we hear it (unless our hearing is impaired). Our ears give us immediate feedback that we’ve made a sound. We can then modify the sound to accurately convey what we mean. Similarly, we need a reaction, feedback, when we’re feeling something. When the feedback is accurate, our feeling unfolds and becomes clearer. "

― Anne Katherine , Boundaries: Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries