" If habits, Lifestyles,or personalities are fruits, then thoughts,words,or actions are seeds.
hange your seeds and the fruits will change accordingy.This can be shown as a flow like this :
Thughts->Words->Actions->Habits->Character->Destiny.

The first three are soft, and easier to change.
What you need is your decision to change and mindfulness to be aware of your thoughts, words and actions.
The three on the right are hard, already manifested, and connected to many other euqally har things. The further you go to the left, the softer things become and the easier to change. "

― Ilchi Lee , Change: Realizing Your Greatest Potential