" When you make a plan, what do you have to gain from being welded to the expectations inherent in it? Nothing. When you are free from its expectations you are “in a dance” with life where you can simply execute the plan, and deal with what happens. If it succeeds, you can celebrate. If it fails, you can re-calibrate.
Don’t expect victory or defeat. Plan for victory, learn from defeat. "

― Gary John Bishop , Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life