" If you're prone to social perfectionism, your self-esteem will be dangerously dependent on keeping the roles and responsibilities you believe you have. You'll tend to agree with statements such as "Success means I must work harder to please others." It's not what you expect of yourself. "It's what you think other people expect "

― Will Storr , Selfie: How We Became So Self-Obsessed and What It's Doing to Us