" We can’t say at once, “The sex of a child’s ‘parents’ doesn’t matter,” and then say that the sex of the person with whom the adult shares a bed matters so much that he or she can’t possibly conform his or her ways to nature. The boy doesn’t need a father, because sex doesn’t matter; but his mother needs a “wife” and can’t possibly be expected to take a man, because in this case sex matters more than everything else in the world. "

― Anthony Esolen , Defending Marriage: Twelve Arguments for Sanity