" I expected so much of other feminists - we all did- the most ordinary disappointments were often experienced as major betrayals. We expected less of men and forgave them, more than once, when they failed us. We expected far more of other women, who, paradoxically, had less (power) to share than men did. We held grudges against other women in ways we dared not to do against men. We were not always aware of this.

Be aware of such unspoken double standards. Try and behave more evenhandedly than we did. "

― Phyllis Chesler , Letters to a Young Feminist