" I say, " Well then I don't know if it was real, and that makes me feel like I'm going insane again." " Absolutely it was real. It was a real, partial picture. Because it ended preemptively, things you would have learned about him in the relationship, you are instead learning in the breakup. You have learned that he has a desperate desire for intimacy and then a desperate desire for the cave. He will get lonely there eventually and come back." " To me?" He doesn't pause. " To someone new." " And I'll have to watch another girl?" " You will have to, but you will also know what lies ahead for that poor girl. "