" to “I am trying to get better at this.” Change “I am smart” to “When I work hard at things, it pays off.” Change “This is hard” to “I do hard things.” Change “I can’t” to “I can take the first step, and see what happens.” Change “I suck” to “I haven’t learned how to do this yet. "

― Julie Lythcott-Haims , Your Turn: How to Be an Adult