" With all the attention paid to the urban tribe, however, many twentysomethings have limited themselves to huddling together with like-minded peers. Some are in almost constant contact with the same few people. But while the urban tribe helps us survive, it does not help us thrive. The urban tribe may bring us soup when we are sick, but it is the people we hardly know--those who never make it into our tribe--who will swiftly and dramatically change our lives for the better. "

― Meg Jay , The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now