" This is a problem because, while the urban tribe may be the most supportive figures in our twenties, they are not the most transformative. The urban tribe may bring us soup when we are sick, but it is the people we hardly know—those who never make it into our tribe—who will swiftly and dramatically change our lives for the better. "

― Meg Jay , The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now