" ACTION STEP: We cannot expect transformation of our attitudes and behavior until the barrier of resentment/anger is removed. Go to God and stay there as long as you need to, confessing all of your resentments and anger to Him. Be specific: name people, circumstances, etc., and let it all spill out. This may take some time, but do it! "

― Erwin W. Lutzer , Getting to No: How to Break a Stubborn Habit