" It’s important to understand that no one can return to the persona they were prior to coming out. Once they’ve stepped through the door something significant and integral shifts within them. If fear or relational disruption causes them to go back into hiding, they won’t be who or what they were before. They can’t be. They will be different because they are different. "

― Suzanne DeWitt Hall , Reaching for Hope: Strategies and support for the partners of transgender people