" Many workaholics also feel unloved. The message they received from their parents was not, “We love you,” but rather, “We love you if … We love you if you make up your bed, put your dishes in the dishwasher, clean up your room, mow the grass, and make straight A’s.” Such conditional love sets a child up to become an adult workaholic. "

― Gary Chapman , Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away: Real Help for Desperate Hearts in Difficult Marriages