" The narcissism that can be characteristic of romantic ideals—​​​romantic ideals that can actually drive us away from our real partners into escapist and emotionally comforting reveries—​​​can also cause us to replace the concrete relationships of our given contexts with idealized communities in which we can forgo the struggles associated with the transformation of actual communities and the need to adapt to and be vulnerable to others.14 "

― Tony Reinke , 12 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You