" Being a man is rolling up your sleeves and telling the world ‘Now I’ll play by the real rules—no more wooden swords. If I succeed, then the credit belongs to me, not my parents or teachers or employers, and I shall savor the prizes without guilt, knowing I earned them. And if I fail, then I’ll pay the penalties without whimpering or blaming anyone else.’ That’s what manhood is, and it’s up to you to decide when it starts. "

― Dave Duncan , A Man of His Word: The Complete Series