" Rosemary started to nod, then shook her head. "Thats not the same. What happened to you, to your species, it's ... it doesn't even compare."
"Why? Because it's worse?"
She nodded.
"But it still compares. If you have a fractured bone, and I've broken every bone in my body, does that make your fracture go away? Does it hurt you any less, knowing that I am in more pain? "

― Becky Chambers , The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet (Wayfarers, #1)