" We are not responsible for the choices that others make. It's human condition to latch onto the whys and what ifs because that gives us power when we feel like we have none. But we're looking for power in the wrong place... The power is not in the past—it's in the present. It's in how we choose to move forward, and how we can mold our grief into something useful. Something beautiful. "

― Jennifer Hartmann , The Wrong Heart