" Did you really need me to tell you what you really want is happiness? I’m afraid so, because your entire life, you and everyone else have been urged to turn the question of “What do I want?” into “How am I going to get there?”! And thereby, we’ve come to believe we don’t even know what we want, when we actually do, thinking instead that we have to answer the question of “How?” with a sexy-cool career that will thrill us and make all else possible. We even sheepishly think we’re already supposed to be rocking this sexy-cool vocation, except we don’t know what it is yet! Paralysis. You’ve always known what you wanted, “Happiness!” but you’ve been taught it’s something you have to achieve, doing what you love, instead of being shown it’s about loving what you do and seeing where it leads. Neither have we been taught we can feel happiness now, for no reason. And given that most of our “achieving” in life comes from our careers, it’s been implied that to be successful (happy), we have to make wise choices, find our sacred, birth-destined niche, invoke divine intervention, perform clutch plays, get a little lucky, and shed copious amounts of blood, sweat, and tears. Talk about pressure—we’ve carried the weight of the world on our shoulders! Why? Because we’ve confused the means with the end; the hows for our dreams! "

― Mike Dooley , Playing the Matrix: A Program for Living Deliberately and Creating Consciously