" If you have a bird that you love, and you want the bird to stay and hang out and sing for you, you don’t clutch it in your fist so it can’t get away. You hold your hand out, open, and wait for it to perch there. If you’re holding it, it’s not your friend - it’s your prisoner. Love with an open hand. "

― Lindy West , Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman