" When a man is in command, he sits in a position where he cannot have friend or foe. Regular human relationships do not figure into it. So you can’t worry about what people think of you, and you can’t lie awake and have sleepless nights. The job of being in command is lonely by definition. "

― James D. Hornfischer , The Fleet at Flood Tide: America at Total War in the Pacific, 1944-1945