QUOTE : If the young man and woman see one another more than just a few times, it is very easy for them both to drift into what can be called the tone of vulnerability. This zone of vulnerability is that place where one cannot leave the relationship without being hurt. At some point in a relationship, the man or the woman will come to the place where, if they break up, they get hurt. Once people are inside that zone, they are vulnerable. As long as he or she is outside that zone, they are not threatened at all by the relationship-it is still only a potential relationship.