" He built a new vantage point, above the fray; a way to see himself, his old conflict, and his new purpose, in alignment. This expansion is a running theme in every story I’ve encountered of people shifting out of high conflict. Something happens to slow time and create space—maybe the birth of a child, maybe the death of a loved one, maybe even a stint in prison or the signing of a peace treaty—and in that precious space, under the right conditions, something new begins to grow. "

― Amanda Ripley , High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out