" It required a lot of breathing deeply in board meetings, pausing before he responded, resisting temptation. He spent a lot of time managing his own ego. In his head, he’d ask himself three questions: Does it need to be said? If the answer was yes, then he’d ask himself: Does it need to be said by me? And if still yes: Does it need to be said by me right now? It was surprising how often the answer was No. "

― Amanda Ripley , High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out