" FINAL CONFESSION I acknowledge before the Source of all That life and death are not in my hands. Just as I did not choose to be born, so I do not choose to die. May it come to pass that I may be healed but if death is my fate, then I accept it with dignity and the loving calm of one who knows the way of all things.   May my death be honorable, and may my life be a healing memory for those who know me.   May my loved ones think well of me and may my memory bring them joy.   "

― Anita Diamant , Saying Kaddish: How to Comfort the Dying, Bury the Dead, and Mourn as a Jew