" And here is the eternal wisdom: There are always challenges. You plan for one thing, and something else often happens. The long view—is this a desirable thing or an undesirable thing?—is rarely immediately apparent. Immediate emotional responses are just that. Noticing them, and reflecting, is always a good idea. And the cause of suffering—always—is struggling with challenge rather than responding with sound judgment and kindness. "

― Sylvia Boorstein , Happiness Is an Inside Job: Practicing for a Joyful Life