" All defenses are learned behaviors. You only develop psychological defenses because they were once necessary for self-protection. In order to heal, it is important to become curious about your behaviors and their origins. The practice of being curious helps you cultivate insight, a deeper understanding that leads to compassion and acceptance. "

― Arielle Schwartz , The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole