" In my generation the child learned to identify completely with the parents’ perspective and never to question it. In the works of all the authors I know, I have observed that, despite occasional rebellion, they end up defending their parents against their own accusations. Accusations against parents are often associated with mortal fears, not only because of real threats but because a small child feels he is in deadly danger if he loses the love of the person closest to him. Thus the old repressed fear is preserved in the adult, and the danger signals stored so long ago can remain effective for a lifetime. "
― Alice Miller , Banished Knowledge: Facing Childhood Injuries