" The strong desire of many parents to be loved and honored by their children finds great legitimization in the Fourth Commandment. In a television broadcast I once happened to watch, the representatives of various religions asserted that we must honor our parents, regardless of what they have done to us. In this way, the dependency of children on their parents is reinforced, and those who believe in this tenet are kept ignorant of the fact that, as adults, it is entirely possible for them to liberate themselves from this cycle. In the light of present-day knowledge, we see that the Fourth Commandment is in fact a contradiction in terms. A system of morality tells us what to do and what not to do, but it cannot tell us what we should feel. "

― Alice Miller , The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting