QUOTE : Literally an out-of-body experience, he had said. You, the bereaved are completely liberated from the need to emote. All the pressures of the funeral, the expectation that you will perform your grief for the assembled crowd - imagine that you are a widow, burying your husband, people expect a good show. But the nature of grief is incompatible with this demand, people say that when you are grieving, when you have experienced a profound loss, you are impaled beneath it, hardly in a condition to express your sorrow. Instead, you purchase an instrument to express your sorrow, or perhaps it's less like an instrument and more like a tape recorder and tape, you simply press play and the ceremony, the long and elaborate production, carries on without you. You walk away and are left alone with your grief. It is a remarkably enlightened arrangement, of course the financial aspect is crucial, the fact that it is a monetary transaction makes the entire arrangement clean, refined. It's no wonder that such a custom is native to Greece, the so-called cradle of civilization