" When I am challenged by feedback from a person of color and do not understand the feedback or feel defensive about it, I change the roles in my mind. I imagine that I have just challenged a man on sexism and he is saying out loud to me the same things I am thinking about the feedback I just received. Changing the roles usually makes what is off in my thinking obvious. "

― Robin DiAngelo , Nice Racism: How Progressive White People Perpetuate Racial Harm