" to change our reactions, we must first be aware when these reactions happen. You can’t change them if you’re in automatic mode. Once you notice it, the key thing is not to act — it’s OK to have the feeling, but the action is what is usually destructive. Acting in anger means you’re going to do something not kind, not helpful. "

― Leo Babauta , The Little Book of Contentment: A Guide to Becoming Happy with Life and Who You Are, While Getting Things Done