" We sometimes resort to verbal threats in the hope of making people come to their senses. For example: If you don’t do what I want, I will take away something that is important to you, or in the future I won’t give you what you need. This happens especially between family members. Unfortunately, such words won’t change people’s minds. They will only hurt them and make them dig in their heels. Instead, calmly explain why something is important to you, so your words don’t sound like threats or ultimatums. Change will last longer when it’s not forced but when it comes about because
they have been convinced of its need. "

― Haemin Sunim , Love for Imperfect Things: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection