" What distresses us is less the circumstances we find ourselves in and more the energy we expend in resisting them. Once we actually do the work, we are often surprised that it was not as hard as we imagined it to be. But when we resist, we become preoccupied by an endless cycle of negative thoughts, and in turn feel harried and stressed. "

― Haemin Sunim , Love for Imperfect Things: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection