" Why not get what you want? Why pretend to make someone fit what she is not? It doesn’t mean you don’t love her. It means you make a choice and say yes or no, because you love yourself also. You make a choice, and you are responsible for your choices. Then if the choices are not working well, you do not blame yourself. You simply make another choice. "

― Miguel Ruiz , The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship --Toltec Wisdom Book